We reach out to others, in hopes that they have that special something to fill that void. We try drugs, sex, and alcohol to assuage that aching, empty feeling. But, nothing seems to do the trick. There is something that we missed. The puzzle seems almost complete. We're so close to happiness but, it escapes us just as we reach to grasp it.
You ask yourself, "What is wrong? What am I missing?"The answer is YOU.
We spend so much time focused on others – what she's got, who he's with, what my neighbor's driving, how my co-worker got promoted – that we fail to take a look at and know ourselves. We have no idea who we are.
If you ask the average person who they are, they will define themselves by what they do and what they have. But, who you are is far greater than what can be seen to the outside world. Who you are on the inside is what truly defines you and makes up your character. Therefore, we need to get our inner man on the up and up – you know, get our insides right!
That missing piece, that quest, this journey; begins with you. Until you recognize who you are – beyond the hurt, above your trials, ahead of your afflictions, beneath your grief, through your triumphs, in those quiet hours, in moments of praise – you will be lost on that same, lonesome path.
Identifying who you are is no walk in the park. It is not an easy or quickly orchestrated task. It is an intimate journey on which you examine every inch of your being. What you seek to define is your strong points, faults, strengths, weaknesses, concerns, prejudices – examining yourself as if you were diagnosed and trying to expel an infectious disease. You leave no stone unturned and no issue unattended until you know who you are. Remembering, that you are more than the wrongs you've done, more than the mistakes you've made. You are more than a moment in time and much more than a memory. Learn to forgive yourself and learn to love you.
My friends, I don't suggest that you move through such an undertaking alone. One of the reasons you have circled back to this same issue over and over is because you thought that you can find you all by yourself. (And you see how far you've gotten on your own.) You are not alone. The same help that I have – the same resource that keeps raising me up – the same light unto my path is waiting to help you. All you have to do IS ASK.
Loving yourself doesn't mean taking on a selfish spirit. It is not self-centeredness and making each and everything revolve around you. It simply means embracing this life and your right to live in it, peacefully. Coming to terms with your inner man. Doing so, brings you a level of happiness that cannot be purchased...
Jesus is my help. Without Him I have nothing and there is no me to know. But, with Him there is nothing impossible and nothing I can't conquer. Even when the quest is to know myself. So everyday, now that He is the head of my life, I can look in the mirror and say, "It's Nice Knowing You."
TGBTG (To God Be The Glory)! ~TQ
©2011 by Turquoise C.A. Hayes
1 comment:
Nice read. I actually went through a "getting to know me" phase, it was the best thing I could have ever done in my adult life I believe.
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